You're Not Listening

Brought to you by Penguin.When was the last time you listened to someone, or someone really listened to you? This life-changing book will transform your conversations foreverAs a society, we've forgotten how to listen. Modern life is noisy and frenetic, and technology provides constant distraction. So we tune things out or listen selectively - even to those we love most. We've become scared of other people's points of view, and of silence.Now more than ever, we need to listen to those around us. New York Times contributor Kate Murphy draws on countless conversations she has had with everyone from priests to CIA interrogators, focus group moderators to bartenders, her great-great aunt to her friend's toddler, to show how only by listening well can we truly connect with others.Listening is about curiosity and patience - about asking the right questions in the right way. Improvisational comedians and con men are much better at it than most of us. And the cleverest people can be the worst at it. Listening has the potential to transform our relationships and our working lives, improve our self-knowledge, and increase our creativity and happiness. While it may take some effort, it's a skill that can be learnt and perfected. When all we crave is to understand and be understood, You're Not Listening shows us how.(c) Kate Murphy 2020 (P) Penguin Audio 2020

Brought to you by Penguin.When was the last time you listened to someone, or someone really listened to you? This life-changing book will transform your conversations foreverAs a society, we've forgotten how to listen. Modern life is noisy and frenetic, and technology provides constant distraction. So we tune things out or listen selectively - even to those we love most. We've become scared of other people's points of view, and of silence.Now more than ever, we need to listen to those around us. New York Times contributor Kate Murphy draws on countless conversations she has had with everyone from priests to CIA interrogators, focus group moderators to bartenders, her great-great aunt to her friend's toddler, to show how only by listening well can we truly connect with others.Listening is about curiosity and patience - about asking the right questions in the right way. Improvisational comedians and con men are much better at it than most of us. And the cleverest people can be the worst at it. Listening has the potential to transform our relationships and our working lives, improve our self-knowledge, and increase our creativity and happiness. While it may take some effort, it's a skill that can be learnt and perfected. When all we crave is to understand and be understood, You're Not Listening shows us how.(c) Kate Murphy 2020 (P) Penguin Audio 2020

When was the last time you listened to someone, or someone really listened to you? If you're like most people, you don't listen as often or as well as you'd like. There's no one better qualified than a talented journalist to introduce you to the right mindset and skillset--and this book does it with science and humor. -Adam Grant, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Originals and Give and Take **Hand picked by Malcolm Gladwell, Adam Grant, Susan Cain, and Daniel Pink for Next Big Ideas Club** An essential book for our times. -Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone At work, we're taught to lead the conversation. On social media, we shape our personal narratives. At parties, we talk over one another. So do our politicians. We're not listening. And no one is listening to us. Despite living in a world where technology allows constant digital communication and opportunities to connect, it seems no one is really listening or even knows how. And it's making us lonelier, more isolated, and less tolerant than ever before. A listener by trade, New York Times contributor Kate Murphy wanted to know how we got here. In this always illuminating and often humorous deep dive, Murphy explains why we're not listening, what it's doing to us, and how we can reverse the trend. She makes accessible the psychology, neuroscience, and sociology of listening while also introducing us to some of the best listeners out there (including a CIA agent, focus group moderator, bartender, radio producer, and top furniture salesman). Equal parts cultural observation, scientific exploration, and rousing call to action that's full of practical advice, You're Not Listening is to listening what Susan Cain's Quiet was to introversion. It's time to stop talking and start listening.

Listening is the simplest skill we ignore - and the one that changes everything. In our noisy world, journalist Kate Murphy reminds us that listening is the key to understanding and to deeper connection. Drawing on neuroscience, psychology and interviews with experts - from CIA interrogators to priests and bartenders - she reveals how true listening strengthens relationships, creativity and empathy. You’re Not Listening is both a practical guide and a cultural critique, showing how rediscovering this neglected skill can transform our communication, our workplaces and our emotional lives. This clear and compassionate life-changing book will transform your conversations forever. ‘Inspiringly profound… smart and playful’ Observer ‘I’ll be adopting Murphy’s advice’ Sunday Times

Listening is the simplest skill we ignore - and the one that changes everything. In our noisy world, journalist Kate Murphy reminds us that listening is the key to understanding and to deeper connection. Drawing on neuroscience, psychology and interviews with experts - from CIA interrogators to priests and bartenders - she reveals how true listening strengthens relationships, creativity and empathy. You’re Not Listening is both a practical guide and a cultural critique, showing how rediscovering this neglected skill can transform our communication, our workplaces and our emotional lives. This clear and compassionate life-changing book will transform your conversations forever. ‘Inspiringly profound… smart and playful’ Observer ‘I’ll be adopting Murphy’s advice’ Sunday Times