The Motherload

NATIONAL BESTSELLER Belletrist Book Club Pick * The Times (London) Book of the Week “Essential reading for anyone who’s felt failed by the parental canon.” — Town & Country “An honest and refreshing take on motherhood.” —Today “With blistering honesty” ( Oprah Daily ), this nationally bestselling motherhood memoir dares to ask what happens when “what to expect when you’re expecting” turns out to be months of rage, anguish, brain fog, and a total surrender of sex, career, and identity. Like most of us, Sarah Hoover grew up imagining a certain life for herself, and when she moved from Indiana to New York City to study art history, the life she’d imagined began falling into place. She got her degree in art history, landed a job in a gallery, made friends, and met interesting artists, one of whom became her husband. But when Hoover got pregnant, everything in her life began to unravel. She felt like an imposter in her own body. She grew distant from her friends and husband. Anxiety, fear, guilt, and shame threatened to swallow her. She also experienced trauma at the hands of one of her doctors—a stark trigger. And when her son was born, there was no j oy . Her despair was persistent, even with help, therapy, and pills. Grieving a lost identity and angry at the world around her, she found herself despising her baby, her husband, and herself. She was afraid it might not end. With the help of a doctor’s diagnosis, Hoover began to understand the cluster of symptoms that informed her experience—she was drowning in postpartum depression—and that she wasn’t a bad mother or a failed woman. At its core, this “page-turning look at the realities of motherhood and postpartum depression” (Candace Bushnell, New York Times bestselling author) is about learning to forgive yourself. It’s a rejection of the cultural idea of the mother as a perfect being. And it’s a propulsive and whip-smart “welcome moment of truth” ( W Magazine ) on the vicissitudes of marriage, life, and parenting—a motherhood memoir unlike any other.

NATIONAL BESTSELLER Belletrist Book Club Pick * The Times (London) Book of the Week “Essential reading for anyone who’s felt failed by the parental canon.” — Town & Country “An honest and refreshing take on motherhood.” —Today “With blistering honesty” ( Oprah Daily ), this nationally bestselling motherhood memoir dares to ask what happens when “what to expect when you’re expecting” turns out to be months of rage, anguish, brain fog, and a total surrender of sex, career, and identity. Like most of us, Sarah Hoover grew up imagining a certain life for herself, and when she moved from Indiana to New York City to study art history, the life she’d imagined began falling into place. She got her degree in art history, landed a job in a gallery, made friends, and met interesting artists, one of whom became her husband. But when Hoover got pregnant, everything in her life began to unravel. She felt like an imposter in her own body. She grew distant from her friends and husband. Anxiety, fear, guilt, and shame threatened to swallow her. She also experienced trauma at the hands of one of her doctors—a stark trigger. And when her son was born, there was no j oy . Her despair was persistent, even with help, therapy, and pills. Grieving a lost identity and angry at the world around her, she found herself despising her baby, her husband, and herself. She was afraid it might not end. With the help of a doctor’s diagnosis, Hoover began to understand the cluster of symptoms that informed her experience—she was drowning in postpartum depression—and that she wasn’t a bad mother or a failed woman. At its core, this “page-turning look at the realities of motherhood and postpartum depression” (Candace Bushnell, New York Times bestselling author) is about learning to forgive yourself. It’s a rejection of the cultural idea of the mother as a perfect being. And it’s a propulsive and whip-smart “welcome moment of truth” ( W Magazine ) on the vicissitudes of marriage, life, and parenting—a motherhood memoir unlike any other.

An intimately honest memoir about motherhood that dares to ask, what happens when "what to expect when you're expecting" turns out to be months of rage, anguish, brain fog, and a total surrender of sex, career, and identity. "The kid was objectively a tiny worm, even worse, a worm with my nose." Welcome to Sarah Hoover's unflinching take on motherhood and its expectations in which the beatific narrative women have been fed--one of immediate connection to your child followed by a joyful path of maternal discovery--turns out to be not quite true. In The Motherload , Hoover provides a candid, funny, and sobering look at the journey women undertake as expectant mothers and wives from the early days of pregnancy through labor and beyond. Like most of us, Sarah Hoover grew up imagining a certain life for herself--career, love, marriage, children--and when Hoover moved from Indiana to New York City to study art history, the life she'd imagined began falling into place. She got her degree, landed a job in a gallery, made friends, and went on some exceptionally bad dates. She also met interesting artists, one of whom became her future husband (a whirlwind romance, theirs, exciting even with its imperfections). But when Hoover got pregnant, the life she imagined began to unravel. She felt like an imposter in her own body. She grew distant from her friends and husband. She suffered from anxiety, fear, guilt, and shame. She also experienced trauma at the hands of one of her doctors--a stark trigger. And eventually, when her son was born, there was no... joy . Instead, she felt "disoriented, lonely, and like none of my clothes fit." Why was she seeing and hearing things that weren't there? Why was she so angry and miserable when she had everything she thought she wanted? Why was the life she'd built falling apart? It took her months to discover that she was suffering from severe postpartum depression. And it took even longer to trace all the threads that came to inform her experience. At its core, The Motherload is about learning to forgive yourself for not being what you've been told you must be and for not loving the way you've been told you should. It's about the uniquely female experience of constantly grappling with expectation versus reality, no matter your circumstance, and a rejection of the cultural idea of the mother as a perfect being. It is a moving, exciting, roller coaster ride, and a propulsive addition to the canon of women's literature.

An intimately honest memoir about motherhood that dares to ask, what happens when "what to expect when you're expecting" turns out to be months of rage, anguish, brain fog, and a total surrender of sex, career, and identity. "The kid was objectively a tiny worm, even worse, a worm with my nose." Welcome to Sarah Hoover's unflinching take on motherhood and its expectations in which the beatific narrative women have been fed--one of immediate connection to your child followed by a joyful path of maternal discovery--turns out to be not quite true. In The Motherload , Hoover provides a candid, funny, and sobering look at the journey women undertake as expectant mothers and wives from the early days of pregnancy through labor and beyond. Like most of us, Sarah Hoover grew up imagining a certain life for herself--career, love, marriage, children--and when Hoover moved from Indiana to New York City to study art history, the life she'd imagined began falling into place. She got her degree, landed a job in a gallery, made friends, and went on some exceptionally bad dates. She also met interesting artists, one of whom became her future husband (a whirlwind romance, theirs, exciting even with its imperfections). But when Hoover got pregnant, the life she imagined began to unravel. She felt like an imposter in her own body. She grew distant from her friends and husband. She suffered from anxiety, fear, guilt, and shame. She also experienced trauma at the hands of one of her doctors--a stark trigger. And eventually, when her son was born, there was no... joy . Instead, she felt "disoriented, lonely, and like none of my clothes fit." Why was she seeing and hearing things that weren't there? Why was she so angry and miserable when she had everything she thought she wanted? Why was the life she'd built falling apart? It took her months to discover that she was suffering from severe postpartum depression. And it took even longer to trace all the threads that came to inform her experience. At its core, The Motherload is about learning to forgive yourself for not being what you've been told you must be and for not loving the way you've been told you should. It's about the uniquely female experience of constantly grappling with expectation versus reality, no matter your circumstance, and a rejection of the cultural idea of the mother as a perfect being. It is a moving, exciting, roller coaster ride, and a propulsive addition to the canon of women's literature.