Hold on to Your Kids

Brought to you by Penguin. Children take their lead from their friends: being 'cool' matters more than anything else. Shaping values, identity and codes of behaviour, peer groups are often far more influential than parents.But this situation is far from natural, and it can be dangerous - it undermines family cohesion, interferes with healthy development, and fosters a hostile and sexualized youth culture. Children end up becoming conformist, anxious and alienated.In Hold on to Your Kids, acclaimed physician and bestselling author Gabor Mate joins forces with Gordon Neufeld, a psychologist with a reputation for penetrating to the heart of complex parenting. Together they pinpoint the causes of this breakdown and offer practical advice on how to 'reattach' to sons and daughters, establish the hierarchy at home, make children feel safe and understood, and earn back your children's loyalty and love. This updated edition also addresses the unprecedented parenting challenges posed by the rise of digital devices and social media.By helping to reawaken our instincts, Mate and Neufeld empower parents to be what nature intended: a true source of contact, security and warmth for their children.'Mate's book will make you examine your behaviour in a new light' Guardian'bold, wise and deeply moral. [Mate] is a healer to be cherished' Naomi Klein, author of No Logo and The Shock Doctrine(c) Gabor Mate 2004 (P) Penguin Audio 2021

Brought to you by Penguin. Children take their lead from their friends: being 'cool' matters more than anything else. Shaping values, identity and codes of behaviour, peer groups are often far more influential than parents.But this situation is far from natural, and it can be dangerous - it undermines family cohesion, interferes with healthy development, and fosters a hostile and sexualized youth culture. Children end up becoming conformist, anxious and alienated.In Hold on to Your Kids, acclaimed physician and bestselling author Gabor Mate joins forces with Gordon Neufeld, a psychologist with a reputation for penetrating to the heart of complex parenting. Together they pinpoint the causes of this breakdown and offer practical advice on how to 'reattach' to sons and daughters, establish the hierarchy at home, make children feel safe and understood, and earn back your children's loyalty and love. This updated edition also addresses the unprecedented parenting challenges posed by the rise of digital devices and social media.By helping to reawaken our instincts, Mate and Neufeld empower parents to be what nature intended: a true source of contact, security and warmth for their children.'Mate's book will make you examine your behaviour in a new light' Guardian'bold, wise and deeply moral. [Mate] is a healer to be cherished' Naomi Klein, author of No Logo and The Shock Doctrine(c) Gabor Mate 2004 (P) Penguin Audio 2021

Are your children more influenced by their friends than by you? Are they struggling with peer pressure, screen time, or staying connected in a digital world? In Hold On To Your Kids , bestselling author and renowned physician Gabor Maté and child development expert Dr Gordon Neufeld reveal why modern parenting feels harder than ever - and what you can do about it. WINNER OF THE US NATIONAL PARENTING PUBLICATIONS GOLD AWARD THE INTERNATIONAL BESTSELLER ‘A visionary book …one to be taken very seriously’ Peter A. Levine Ph.D., bestselling author of Guiding Your Child Through Trauma ‘Bold, wise and deeply moral. [Maté] is a healer to be cherished’ Naomi Klein, bestselling The Shock Doctrine ------- Today’s children are increasingly looking to their peers, rather than their parents, for direction in their values, identity, and codes of behaviour. But this ‘peer orientation’ can interfere with healthy development, leading to anxiety, disconnection, and behavioural challenges. In this groundbreaking parenting book, acclaimed physician and bestselling author Gabor Maté joins forces with clinical psychologist and child development expert Dr Gordon Neufeld to explain the cause of this breakdown of parental influence and offer practical advice on how to rebuild a strong, healthy relationship with your child. Hold On To Your Kids will show you how to: Strengthen your bond and reconnect with your child Help children resist peer pressure and social media influence Build trust , authority and security at home Support your child’s emotional wellbeing and mental health Raise confident, resilient children This updated edition also includes a new chapter on post-pandemic parenting and youth mental health. Blending child psychology and real-world advice, this book will empower parents to help their children thrive in the digital era and become a true source of contact, security, and warmth for their kids. Praise for Hold On To Your Kids : ‘Maté’s book will make you examine your behaviour in a new light’ Guardian ‘Brings us genuinely new ideas and fresh perspectives on parenting ’ Dr Mary Pipher, psychologist and bestselling author of Reviving Ophelia ‘Full of easy tips for avoiding calamity’ The Times ‘Has the power to change, if not save, the lives of our children.' US National Post

Are your children more influenced by their friends than by you? Are they struggling with peer pressure, screen time, or staying connected in a digital world? In Hold On To Your Kids , bestselling author and renowned physician Gabor Maté and child development expert Dr Gordon Neufeld reveal why modern parenting feels harder than ever - and what you can do about it. WINNER OF THE US NATIONAL PARENTING PUBLICATIONS GOLD AWARD THE INTERNATIONAL BESTSELLER ‘A visionary book …one to be taken very seriously’ Peter A. Levine Ph.D., bestselling author of Guiding Your Child Through Trauma ‘Bold, wise and deeply moral. [Maté] is a healer to be cherished’ Naomi Klein, bestselling The Shock Doctrine ------- Today’s children are increasingly looking to their peers, rather than their parents, for direction in their values, identity, and codes of behaviour. But this ‘peer orientation’ can interfere with healthy development, leading to anxiety, disconnection, and behavioural challenges. Inthis groundbreaking parenting book, acclaimed physician and bestselling author Gabor Maté joins forces with clinical psychologist and child development expert Dr Gordon Neufeld to explain the cause of this breakdown of parental influence and offer practical advice on how to rebuild a strong, healthy relationship with your child. Hold On To Your Kids will show you how to: Strengthen your bond and reconnect with your child Help children resist peer pressure and social media influence Build trust , authority and security at home Support your child’s emotional wellbeing and mental health Raise confident, resilient children This updated edition also includes a new chapter on post-pandemic parenting and youth mental health. Blending child psychology and real-world advice, this book will empower parents to help their children thrive in the digital era and become a true source of contact, security, and warmth for their kids. Praise for Hold On To Your Kids : ‘Maté’s book will make you examine your behaviour in a new light’ Guardian ‘Brings us genuinely new ideas and fresh perspectives on parenting ’ Dr Mary Pipher, psychologist and bestselling author of Reviving Ophelia ‘Full of easy tips for avoiding calamity’ The Times ‘Has the power to change, if not save, the lives of our children.' US National Post

This parenting classic is as relevant today as it was when it was first published, shining a light on one of the most misunderstood trends of our time: how the influence of peers, magnified by social media and video game culture, is replacing parents in the lives of children, and what parents can do about it. WINNER OF THE NATIONAL PARENTING PUBLICATIONS GOLD AWARD - "A worthy book that brings us genuinely new ideas and fresh perspectives on parenting."--Mary Pipher, Ph.D., author of Reviving Ophelia Children take their lead from their friends: Being "cool" matters more than anything else. Shaping values, identity, and codes of behavior, peer groups are often far more influential than parents. But this situation is far from natural, and it can be dangerous--it undermines family cohesion, interferes with healthy development, and fosters a hostile and sexualized youth culture. Children end up becoming conformist, anxious, and alienated. In Hold On to Your Kids, acclaimed physician and bestselling author Gabor Mat? joins forces with psychologist Gordon Neufeld to pinpoint the causes of this breakdown and offer practical advice on how to "reattach" to your children and earn back their loyalty and love. By helping to reawaken our instincts, Neufeld and Mat? empower parents to be what nature intended: a true source of enrichment, security, and warmth for their children.

This parenting classic is as relevant today as it was when it was first published, shining a light on one of the most misunderstood trends of our time: how the influence of peers, magnified by social media and video game culture, is replacing parents in the lives of children, and what parents can do about it. WINNER OF THE NATIONAL PARENTING PUBLICATIONS GOLD AWARD - "A worthy book that brings us genuinely new ideas and fresh perspectives on parenting."--Mary Pipher, Ph.D., author of Reviving Ophelia Children take their lead from their friends: Being "cool" matters more than anything else. Shaping values, identity, and codes of behavior, peer groups are often far more influential than parents. But this situation is far from natural, and it can be dangerous--it undermines family cohesion, interferes with healthy development, and fosters a hostile and sexualized youth culture. Children end up becoming conformist, anxious, and alienated. In Hold On to Your Kids, acclaimed physician and bestselling author Gabor Mat? joins forces with psychologist Gordon Neufeld to pinpoint the causes of this breakdown and offer practical advice on how to "reattach" to your children and earn back their loyalty and love. By helping to reawaken our instincts, Neufeld and Mat? empower parents to be what nature intended: a true source of enrichment, security, and warmth for their children.